This is the real secret to eloquence.
Michael Landy’s “Acts of Kindness” on the Tube, is worth noticing if you want to be a great speaker. Landy’s expression “Self-Other” is a good reminder of the maxim for performers: Eighty percent attention on other (are my audience getting what they want and need?), twenty percent on self (am I breathing low?, going slow enough?, how much time is left?). As David Hare puts it, nerves are vanity. When it comes to performance, once you are structured (and that in itself is about a gift to the audience), self means little, other is EVERYTHING.